India is evolving. Gone are those days when your parents would find a partner for you and all you had to do was say yes or no. And sometimes, not even that. Things are different today. Men and women both want to say more than just yes and no; they want to find out all about the other person before taking the next step towards holy matrimony. It is true! Even this survey states that 81% women want to be independent and take control of their match-making process.
With the shift in decision making power, several Indian matrimony companies are developing their own apps to cater to this audience. They have made it easier for you to connect with a potential partner directly on the app, without the need to involve your aunties, uncles or even that distant cousin who can always find information about anyone. But once you do connect, there is another hurdle to overcome – the awkwardness of the ‘first meeting’ for your potential rishta. To many, it can seem tougher than finding out why Kattappa killed Baahubali before the sequel came out.
So, if you feel nervous or awkward, do not worry. We have got you covered. These fun ice-breakers will surely transport you from tension mode to chilled-out mode.
Travel Escapades
This topic is as casual as asking about the weather, but probably more insightful. Besides, all of us are guilty of using the hashtag wanderlust at least once in our life. In fact, talking about your travel stories will help you understand how the other person adjusted to a new place and what kind of food they liked eating. It will tell you a great deal about his or her personality. And in the middle of this conversation, you might discover common interests and ample scope for compatibility too.
Movie Mania
There are three things that are sacred in India – Religion, Cricket and Bollywood. While the first two topics are better reserved for future meets, the third topic is one that you can discuss even with a stranger in a traffic jam. So, ask your potential bride or groom if they like the Sooraj Barjatya genre of movies, Yash Raj films or those that defy the laws of physics. You can also find out if they like to Netflix and chill or are crazy about Amazon Prime. Who knows…you might share a more important account one day!
To Gift Or Not To Gift
What is the best gift you have ever received? The answer to this question can tell you a lot about the person. Surely, there will be a personal story attached to it. Also, if this rishta works out, you will know exactly what to gift your partner on the first anniversary. Bonus!
Favourite Profession As A Child
Some people know exactly what they want to be in future even as a child. And then there are some who dream of being so many things that they can’t decide which one to go with – a police inspector, an astronaut, a scientist or a plant! So, this ice-breaker is most likely to make room for some funny stories, encouraging both of you to talk about your childhood memories and the aspirations you now have. This is always an important topic as it can give you an idea of what your future may look like with the other person.
To wrap up, keep it simple and you might gain a potential life companion from the very first meeting. The one thing to remember is that it is not an interview. The idea is to keep the conversation flowing and see if you two are compatible. Refrain from asking questions that are too intrusive and make the other person feel uncomfortable. If you do end up touching a nerve, do not hesitate to apologise, as it means that you can take responsibility for your actions. You may just be forgiven. After all, bade bade sheheron mein aisi choti choti baatein hoti rehti hai na?